“Nourishing relationships with loving, smart, creative people is what life’s all about.”—Marie Forleo

Monday, June 10, 2024

Girls, It's Up to Us

 


There is a battle happening.

 

It’s a battle for our thoughts.

 

It’s a battle for our beliefs, emotions, and humanness.

 

“There is something in us so beautiful, so powerful that countries will go to battle to keep us distracted from our humanness. “—Gregg Braden.

 

We are over chemicalized and overburdened with media trying to keep us reading their material. They want eyeballs, your time, attention, site numbers, and money.

 

Chemicalized? Please think of this: doctors are prescribing Birth control pills for young girls to regulate their periods. Take them off long enough for them to reproduce, and then chances are artificial hormones come next. Possibly, they will have a hysterectomy, for they don’t need a uterus anymore. Then back on hormones. (Please read my comments on Premarin on the pages at https://Goddesses50andbeyond.blogspot.com.

 

Suggest a pill to a man to lower his testosterone to reduce his aggressiveness, and he will go ballistic.

 

Life isn’t all stable and regulated. We have ups and downs. Our emotions get tricky. I take Armor Thyroid rather than a synthetic. (I don’t think they killed a pig for it.) My Naturopath said the difference was that the synthetic was more stable. Natural is like a fruit cocktail. You dip a spoon in, and you might get a pineapple chunk and a grape or, another time, a peach slice and a cherry.

 

But isn’t that the way life is? Not predictable? We vary; we are organic, after all.

 

I say it is up to us, we 50 and beyond, because we’ve been around the block a few times, and we remember the strides we’ve made and how hard we fought for them. Don’t slip back. If you think we have no control, think of this: women 50 and beyond are becoming premier buyers because they often have discretionary money to spend. That’s one way to spell out our preferences. 

 

Think of it this way: Darwin missed an essential aspect of human evolution. (And, I was a biology major steeped in evolution.) What he missed was cooperation.

 

Why do you think Zebras look alike? Why do you believe herds stay in a bunch? Why do wolves hunt in a pack? And why did women create language? 

 

It works better if we bond with a group.

 

My daughter told me today that Pilates sprang from Yoga. I didn’t know that. Some people objected to the spiritual aspect of Yoga, so they took it out.

 

Maybe that’s what is missing from our culture—the morality that comes with a spiritual connection. Lying is accepted. There is a disrespect for our laws that we try, not perfectly, to make fair. It’s okay to criticize our fellows because they look different or act differently from us. Revenge is encouraged, and many men still use and mistreat women because they can.

 

Gregg Braden defined Divinity as “the ability to transcend.” That is the something in us that is so beautiful and powerful that countries will battle to keep it from us.

 

We are Body, Mind, and Spirit here.  Our bodies are brilliant. Our mind is bright, and Our Spirit is so big we don’t have words to contain it.

 

“A lie can travel halfway around the world while the truth is putting on its shoes.”—Mark Twain.

 


Tuesday, June 4, 2024

Ageless Living


“Agelessness happens in that space where we choose to step into joy and possibility rather than remain stuck in a vicious cycle of anger, fear, and grief. —Christiane Northrup. 


I became excited about beginning this site about three pages into Christiane Northrup's book Goddesses Never Age. I learned that women hide incontinence and don't tell their doctors for an average of 8 years. Many women have some degree of pelvic prolapse and, not only women who have born children. In Asia, it is estimated that adult diapers will outsell baby diapers in 2024. These are the facts, man.

My excitement isn't about adult diapers but about how we can talk about such subjects and help each other. 

Since I believe in the Mind-Body-Spirit connection, that our physical issues are not separate from our minds, and that our minds are not separate from our Spiritual understandings, that’s what I want to talk about

In her book Mindfulness, Ellen Langer, Ph.D., a Harvard professor describes how she conducted a study with men in their 70s and 80s. She had one group live as though they were in the 1950s when they were in their prime. They watched TV shows, listened to music, and looked at their pictures from that time. (Think the Beatles and Elvis Presley; if it had been women instead of men, they would probably be wearing circle skirts. )

At the end of two weeks, the men from the 50's experiment had better, hearing, vision, lung function and other measurements, plus they had a greater sense of well-being. 

The control group, who had carried on as usual, showed no change.

You don't have to be over 50 to join this group. However, I'm naming it Goddesses, 50 and Beyond.

Remember, we might be grandmothers, but we're the ones who wore mini skirts, went to Woodstock, burned bras, and championed Woman's Rights. We're the ones who taught our kids to tell the truth, eat good food, brush their teeth, say Please and Thank you, and then with enthusiasm, we said, "Okay kids, get your swimming suits, we're going to the lake."

 

“Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom”—Viktor Frankl.

 


Sunday, June 2, 2024

The Buck Stops Here

 Let’s say your mother neglected you.

 “I’m going to release this feeling of being unloved once and for all, “you say.

 So, you begin to yell or scream, pound a pillow, or scratch out your complaints on paper, and then you think, “Oh, her mother neglected her when she was young. That’s why she neglected me.”

 All that is true and perceptive of you, but it doesn’t release the hurt from your body, soul, or mind.

 First, get it out, then you can be understanding of their psychological hurts. You know the story: “Put on your own Oxygen mask first, then help someone else.”

 We know that the body tries to speak to us. We store our emotions in our energy fields and tissues, where they wait for us to have the courage to express them.

 They try to tell us we need to address an issue, for anger, grief, sadness, and shame cause the body to create and hold onto stress hormones. This leads to cellular degeneration, inflammation, and physical ailments—all associated with aging.

 We know when we have some physical challenge, but often, we do not know its cause. Perhaps we’ll find out later after it is resolved. Then, we can see the connection. Until then, we must ask for the next step.

 (People often cry when getting a massage or other bodywork. That is releasing it from their tissues.)

 I’ve written about Dr. Gabor Mate before. I am repeating it here: He said that when he was an infant, his mother called the pediatrician, saying, “Little Gabor is crying all the time.” The doctor said, “All the babies are crying all the time. They are picking up the anxiety of their mothers.”

 Germany was about to invade Poland, and the mothers were understandably afraid. Not all injuries are intentional. And it was good that Mate’ knew of the trauma.

 Mate’ felt that incident contributed to his addictions. We know enough psychology to understand that people sometimes hurt us because of some deep-seated hurt they sustained—intentionally or not.

 Dr. Christian Northrup suggests whacking a chair or some sturdy object with a towel while screaming to do a releasing exercise.  If you don’t feel complete the first time, do it again. But don’t get stuck in anger. You can say, “That’s enough.” Then go outside, sit in the sun, soak in a hot bath with or without Epson salts, and when the water goes down the drain, so does your trauma. Petting your cat is helpful or have something to eat, All that tends to put a period at the end of your ranting sentence.

 One thing to remember is that forgiveness does not condone what the other person did. It is saying, “I’m not carrying it anymore.”

 Northrup recommends Iyanla Vanzant’s book 21 Days to Forgive Everyone of Everything. Smiley Books, 2013

 In searching for it, I found another one that looks even better: “Get Over It.” Thought Therapy for Healing the Hard Stuff.

 Thought therapy is “Getting your mind right so you can live better.”

 “Between stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom”—Viktor Frankl.

 

“Agelessness happens in that space where we choose to step into joy and possibility rather than remain stuck in a vicious cycle of anger, fear, and grief. —Christiane Northrup.

 

 


 

Saturday, May 25, 2024

Subjects I'm Passionate About


Love

 

How is it that two separate herds of wild elephants knew that the heart of a great man who had loved them suddenly stopped?

Lawrence Anthony was known as “The Elephant Whisperer.” He was a conservationist who saved countless elephants, many of which were rogues who had left their herd and were destined to be killed by humans.

After Anthony’s death, two separate elephant herds made their way through Zululand land on a 12-hour journey. They arrived at Anthony’s compound one day apart to mourn and pay their respects to the man who had loved them. They stayed for two days, then slowly returned to the bush.

The elephants were connected to each other, their whisperer, and the earth.

Are we devoid of such a connection?

Perhaps we have been drummed out of it. Or could it be that the cells within our bodies are as intelligent as those of the elephants? Perhaps we can reconnect to the wildness within ourselves and with each other. When we learn not to dominate nature but to live in harmony with it, we will reclaim what is rightfully ours.

Are we giving up so many freedoms that we are also giving up our power to be as wise as the animals?

Here at Goddesses 50 and beyond, we figure that age 50 is a good starting point. By 50, many women are getting their acts together. As women enter peri-menopause, a transaction that can last 6-12 years, many women realize that they are not willing to put their dreams on hold. And then there is the menopausal zest for life that few talk about.

Northrup tells the story of a woman on a snorkeling trip to a tropical island where she was practically “drunk with joy.” Next to her were a couple of 20-year-olds complaining about the sound of the motor and that the wind would make it hard to get into the water.  They were sailing over turquoise waters, about to commune with the fishes and worrying about the sound of the motor.

According to Christine Northrup, to live agelessly is “engaging in life without fear that you are going to fall apart.”

At around 50, our bodies begin to send us signals. Your heart talks to you; other structures send out signals; listen to them. It is time to take care of yourself and stop putting other people’s needs ahead of yours. It is a time of change, even if we don’t know it.

Even if you are not one of the wealthiest ones who can take cruises and buy expensive handbags to cheer yourself up, you can still live with excitement and joy.

When I began following the blog “The Daily Coyote,” I found that the author had set out from NY on a Vespa (a small motorcycle) and aimed across the country. She intended to go to San Francisco, but when passing through Wyoming, she fell in with it. After her trip to San Francisco, she returned to Wyoming, where she got a job sub-teaching and working on a farm. She found a cowboy hunk who brought her an orphaned coyote pup that she raised safely for 14 years. 

She is an excellent photographer, and after getting the coyote pup named Charlie, she began photographing him daily and sending the pictures to her family. She started a blog, “The Daily Coyote.” Someone mentioned her blog on another well-known blog, and it took off. She wrote a book by the same name, which is how I found her. She still writes her blog and still lives with her hunk--and about 60 miles from a grocery store. She raises organic beef cattle. The meat sells out faster than she can produce due to her notoriety. She sells calendars with pictures of Charlie, writes her blog, loves her animals, and has a pet steer she can ride.

This woman was young when she made her trip--still is, but we aren’t old at fifty, sixty, or seventy.

So, consider the possibilities. It makes me want to rent a camper and take myself and my blog on the road. I always wanted to be like Charles Kuralt, who wrote beautifully about little-known facts of history and traveled the back roads of America, where he found that people were more alike than apart. For twenty years, he wrote and traveled the roads and began a TV  program called Sunday Morning with Charles Kuralt. “For a time after he retired, the Sunday Morning TV show stayed true to Kuralt’s vision of sticking with gentler subjects.

What have you wanted to do?

Here, we are talking about the holistic approach to living and saying that Mind, Body, and Spirit are connected. I have discovered and/or learned that when one of those three aspects is out of whack, the body responds. Physical ailments occur, as do depression, addictions, and anger. It’s like the carnival game of hitting prairie dogs as they pop out of a hole, only to miss them and have them pop up someplace else.

So, how do we address these three aspects of our lives?

Well, that’s what we are attempting to do. And I hope you will pop in with your input.

I wanted this blog to spark some creative juices.  And as we heal ourselves, we heal our sisters.

 

Wednesday, May 15, 2024

Here we go...

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"When your perception of yourself changes, so does your biochemistry.”

--Christane Northrup

 

The idea for this site began when I was about three pages into Christiane Northrup's book Goddesses Don't Age. I went, "Wow! I need this! We need this!'"

I excitedly searched for a Goddess picture to put on a site, named the site Goddesses 50 and Beyond, and now I'm putting it out there for those live-wire women who are into a holistic approach to living and healing—Mind-Body-Spirit—and would like to learn and share.

We need some normalcy here; times are cuckoo, fractured, angry, and polarized. 

It's time to bring back Momma. back!

For millennia, the feminine has been considered the carrier of the light. Anthropologists have noted that the sacred feminine was worshiped as the Great Goddess of Mother Earth. Isn't that what Gaia is all about—respecting the earth as a mother?!

I also know many women are suffering, overwhelmed, trying to be superwomen, holding down jobs while caring for husbands, children, family, and sometimes elders. Then, there is the childhood stuff that needs to be released. (We will go into that later.) When all that happens, the body complains, and Dis-ease develops. Many take antidepressants and pharmaceuticals. There is arthritis, fibromyalgia, rashes, stomach problems, and pelvic problems. In Japan, they say that adult diapers will outsell baby diapers.  

 It is time to get our acts together, help each other, and live outrageously.

"Self care," says Northrup, "is not self-indulgent, it is self-preservation."

I'm laying it out there for those attracted to this site to see a commonality and a sharing of similar beliefs.

All wellness and vitality come first from our connection with our Spirit, which is the conduit that can change our biochemistry.

We used to believe that genes were complete, little packets of information, predictable. Now, some brilliant scientists have found that genes can turn on and off, and the science of epigenetics was born, and we find that we are not victims of our genetic heritage.

Northrup quotes Dr. Mario Martinez, Psy. D, the founder of the Biocognitive Science Institute, says we should refuse the senior discounts because they reinforce the false belief that we are growing older and more frail, that we can't work, and that we need someone to take care of us.  

Martinez further explained how attitude affects outcome. In Peru, he said, the term "hot flash" means shame.

In Japan, menopause is considered "a second spring" when a woman goes deeper into wisdom. 

 Guess who has the least hot flashes?

 In Africa, the !Kung tribe has no word for hot flashes. There, a woman's status increases as she enters menopause.  

The years 50 to 80 and beyond can be the best of our lives. 

When we see that we are a part of it all, the planet, the stars, our sisters, our children, our animals, the trees, the ground, the soil, that rose in your front yard that so touches your heart, that friend you've had for 50 years, the awe you feel when standing by a mountain stream and staring at a snow-topped mountain, or that creative endeavor that puts you in a no-time zone—that's when you are with Spirit/God. That's when you know you are valuable and have a mission. 

Remember, we all sprang from the same fountainhead—that is, initially, we were all one. The One splintered (Big Bang?), and here we are. Science is showing, at an increasing rate, that consciousness is contagious and that shared knowledge increases the consciousness of the whole.

The story of the 100th monkey came out in the 70s and took the world by storm. True or false, it explains the idea of collective consciousness. The story was about one little female monkey who lived on an island where the tribe subsisted primarily on sweet potatoes. One day, she began washing her sweet potato. Soon, the entire tribe was washing their potatoes. Then scientists discovered that monkeys on a neighboring island, totally disconnected from the first monkey, began washing theirs.

Recently, my daughter shared that similar occurrences are happening with people, not washing their potatoes but somehow gathering information from a group who have already solved a problem. Crossword puzzles, for example, once solved by a group of people, somehow lend the ability to solve it faster to the next group.

The same goes for rats in a maze. Once, let's say, 100 rats have solved the maze, the following 100, disconnected from the first, solve it faster. And the ones after than even faster.

Clinical psychologist Lisa Miller believes that the brain might function more like an antenna—capable of sending and receiving consciousness, which holds information, love, and intelligence. 

This is not the mechanistic view we have previously thought. In other words, consciousness can exist independently of matter. 

It's sad that we have grown more apart than together, with politics and religion being big separators. It appears that whatever powers that be intend to keep us off-kilter and angry. Geesch, angry people can be persuaded to do bad things.

We're better than that. Don't let them do it.

With the experience of my husband's health issues, I'm seeing more and more that medicine is fractured. (Three cardiologists, a lung specialist, a urologist, radiation people, a surgeon, a swallowing therapist, a physical therapist.) Medicine is so complex that we need specialists. But what about one who pulls it all together?

Now, don't get me wrong, I adore doctors. If one of us has an accident and our guts are hanging out, we don't send them to a chiropractor. We send them to a doctor who can fix them. That's what doctors are good at—trauma.

But I'm talking about health and wellness, the holistic approach, all working together.

Recently, I saw how attitudes can be raised by a simple act of absurdity. It was a cold early morning on a subway in New York; people were going up and down huge escalators to change trains. Most were morose, depressed, and going through the motions when Improv Comedian Charlie Todd had a brilliant idea. He had friends come down the escalator holding signs for those going up. One sign said, "Rob Wants," next, "To give You," followed by "A high five." The following sign had an arrow pointing down and said, "This is Rob."

Rob, hand out, gave around 5,000 high-fives that day, and the people were smiling and joyful.

If you are on board the principles behind this site, give us a thumbs up and join the party.

Time to be joyful,


XOXO, Jo

P.S. This site will be open to guest bloggers who have information pertinent to our cause. And please share comments that can be of benefit—antidotes, resources, a book that changed your life, whatever.